I was asked to write a blog on grief and children. Let me explain the best I can, how a parent or other adult can help little hearts navigate through this confusing time.
When someone we love passes away - like a nana, grandpa, parent, or friend - the missing can feel so big it almost takes up all the space in our hearts. For a young child this feeling can be confusing and overwhelming. How do you explain something so deep and so tender?
Well……….. let me take a few minutes to explain.
If you are comforting a child who misses their loved one dearly, here are some compassionate words you can offer:
- It’s OK to feel sad - missing someone means you loved them very much and that love doesn’t go away just because they’re no longer here the way they used to be. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel angry, or confused too. Every feeling you have is a part of how much you loved her.
- Nana’s love is still with you - even though you can't see nana anymore; the love she gave you is still inside you. Every hug, every story, and every smile stays tucked safely in your heart. Love is so strong it doesn’t disappear. It lives on in you.
- Your memories of nana are like little treasures you carry everywhere. When you think of her, tell her a story in your mind. Remember her laugh, picture her smile. That way you keep her close.
- Sometimes when you miss nana so much, it might feel like you’re all alone. You’re not. Nana's love is wrapped around you, even though you can't see it. It's like the wind that kisses your cheeks, or the sunshine that warms your face.
- Some people think if we talk about someone who died it will make us sadder, but talking about nana, sharing your favourite memories, your funny stories, even the times you miss her the most, keeps her spirit alive. It’s the most beautiful way to honour her.
- When you miss nana put your hand on your heart and close your eyes, take a deep breath, she is right there, loving you still. Always.
Remember when talking with your little sweetlings remind yourself grief isn't something that can be fixed with words. Grief deserves to be honoured with compassion, patience, and lots of love. When a young heart aches for someone they have lost, the best gift we can offer is to sit with them, listen, and remind them that love lasts forever and so do the people we carry in our hearts.💞
Until next time, wishing you peace and warmth🙏🏻
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